Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I broke up with my girlfriend for a while now and decided to get a fleshlight. After using it for a couple of months I find that it is easier to last then when I was with mg gf when using the fleshlight with my hand. However when I tried using it hands free I find it quite a bit more difficult to keep myself from going over the edge. Is this normal? Why is this happening?

I am not exactly 100% sure what your question is asking, but different ways of masturbating will provoke different sensations.  Some will bring you to the edge more quickly, others will take longer.  This is totally natural.  Some of the Fleshlight products are designed to help you last longer, so they are intense feeling and will bring you to the edge closer.  If you practice holding off your orgasm using the stop-start method, you can work on your stamina.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I masturbate everyday some time twice a day... Is that good or healthy? I am a 18 yr old boy...

Hello anon,

I am going to give you the same answer I just gave another person a few minutes ago:

The number of times you masturbate each day is totally up to you.  There is no right or wrong number of times to masturbate.  Masturbate when you feel like it, and as long as it isn’t interfering with other parts of your life (being social, going to work, doing well in school, eating, doing household chores, etc) it is ok.  If you find yourself avoiding doing things you need to do every day, then it becomes a problem.  But for now, it sounds like you’re doing fine.

Sir,

I masturbate daily and sometimes twice a day… Then also i feel like i should do it once again… is it ok?

Hi anon, I am actually female.

How many times you masturbate each day is totally up to you.  There is no right or wrong number of times to masturbate.  Do it when you feel like it, and as long as it isn’t interfering with other parts of your life (being social, going to work, doing well in school, eating, doing household chores, etc) it is ok.  If you find yourself avoiding doing things you need to do every day, then it becomes a problem.  But for now, it sounds like you’re doing ok

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Just wanted to say that the fleshlight is a great product. I got my first one back in college to masturbate and learn to last longer. It paid off big time and when I started getting into relationships it wasn't long before I could last as long as I wanted. Great product for any guy who wants to last longer.

Thanks!  glad you’re enjoying yours

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I recently started masturbating. After masturbating my vagina swells up loads and doesn't go down for hours. Is this normal? Also it stings and burns! I've never been sexually active so I know it can't be an std.

Hello anon,

When we become aroused, blood fills our genitals.  This is what gives people with penises an erection, and people with vaginas/vulvas heightened sensitivity in those regions.  I would imagine that the swelling you’re talking about is from arousal, but it is unusual for it to last for hours.  Also, the stinging and burning is not a good sign.  It might be that you’re masturbating too hard, or using something that is causing cuts/bruises on your vulva.  If you have long fingernails, consider cutting them.  Be gentle with yourself!  Your tissues are delicate and do not deserve a beating.

Please remember though, I am not a doctor nor do I have medical training.  You might consider going to see your general practitioner if this continues because it sounds like something is not going right for you.  I know it can be embarassing but believe me, doctors have heard/seen it all.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I've been using an external vibrator but I'm interested in trying out an penetrative toy. I've never put anything inside my vagina before and I'm afraid it'll hurt. Any suggestions or insight?

If you’re afraid it will hurt, try starting out with something small (and safe!).  Start with your fingers if you don’t want to buy a toy, or use a (clean) toothbrush.  Work your way up to bigger items if you want.  Just make sure everything is clean and doesn’t have sharp edges!  

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Long story short I found out my boyfriend has some fleshlights. I haven't told him I know yet and it really bothers me that he uses sex toys. I know I'm being a big hypocrite since I have a couple vibrators and dildos. I'm not ready to have sex yet and he's been understanding with that. I know I should be understanding that he's using them to simply take care of himself but it still bothers me. Any advice on what I could do to be more accepting of this situation?

I would talk to him about why he owns sex toys and when he uses them.  Come to some understanding about both of your sex toys that makes both of you comfortable about them.  If you don’t talk to him, you will start to resent him and be angry about it, so work it out between the two of you.  It may be that he owns them from before your relationship, and hasn’t used them since, or he may use them when he wants sex but you don’t (which is 100% normal in relationships… people have different sex drives!).  Just talk to him and I’m sure you will both feel better about it.  I doubt he wants to hide them from you.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I'm coming out of a 3 year relationship and have started masturbating again. I've found that I can't reach orgasm and ejaculate from masturbating now. So what usually happens I go to bed frustrated but wake up in the middle of the night finding myself covered in my semen from a wet dream which I haven't had since the middle of puberty. What can I do so I can relieve myself through masturbation?

Don’t expect masturbation to feel like having sex with your partner, and don’t get frustrated by your lack of response to it.  It is natural for your body to need an adjustment period when switching between forms of sexual stimulation.  I would take your time masturbating, and make sure you’re really in the mood.  Focus on the sensations of whatever you’re doing and how your body respond to it.  Make sure you’re not distracted, angry, or upset, because that will make it more difficult for you.

If you are really having a hard time, you may want to talk to a professional.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

Where can I buy a fleshlight if I'm a 15 year old teenage male. I can't order one so where can I buy one that someone will sell it to me?

Unfortunately, it is illegal to sell sex toys to people under the age of 18.  

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I have an over-active sex drive and nothing I do seems to curb it. I try to handle it myself, with and without my fleshlight, but it doesn't seem to die. It's getting to a point where I'm squirming at work just waiting to get home to masturbate again. What can I do to lessen this? I don't want to kill my sex drive completely but I want to be more normal about it.

That is a really good question, but I do not feel like I am qualified to give you an answer (nor do I really know how to solve this issue).  I would talk to your doctor, they may have a technique to recommend.  Sorry I couldn’t be more helpful!

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

i don't like how the fleshlight owner's statement frames sexual pusyness (which includes r*pe, as a consequence) as coming from high sex drive, glossing over the power issues, which are more of a result of patriarchal, misogynist socialisation and really can't be cured by great sex toys :/ why can't "those are things that give people with certain genitals great orgasms" be enough of a justification for their existence?

tw: rape

Well, they are products that give people with certain genitals great orgasms.  I thought that was kind of assumed by your first question.  Unfortunately, you’re right, Fleshlight cannot be the answer to all of the problems with the patriarchal structure of sexuality in our society, but at least it is a start.

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

I was curious and visited the fleshlight site and forums after reading your post on the fleshlight. Doesn't all the full frontal nudity of female models on your companies webpages bother you as a feminist? Even if you don't deal with that part of the company, your company does endorse products of artificial orifices, from women who take part in non-feminist friendly porn. Doesn't that bother you at all?

Well… yes and no.

When I interviewed for Fleshlight, I did have some reservations about the product.  I felt that the product was essentially reducing women down to their “fuckable” parts, which is pretty objectifying.  However, the owner of the company began talking to me about the product and how he came about producing it.  ”So many guys have high sex drives,” he told me.  ”They often use women to satisfy their sex drives, whether or not the woman wants to have sex.  They convince and cajole until they get what they want.  I wanted to make a product that would feel as good as the real thing, so that these men wouldn’t have an excuse to use a woman like a sex object.  Instead, they could use their sex toy.”  This makes a lot of sense to me, and is what ultimately convinced me to join the company (along with the fact that I would get to research and write about sexual health).

The Fleshlight Girls that we mold and sell on our site receive generous compensation for each product of theirs that we sell, and the Fleshlight company does not act as a porn-producing company.  We take photos and do plaster-casts, but that is about it.  I don’t think there is anything to object to in the way we treat the porn stars we work with.

Unable to ejaculate from sex

Hi. I was the guy who couldn’t ejaculate during sex. Sorry I didn’t give you more details. I ran out of character I could put in the question. So I’m just going to use the submission option this time.

I don’t think I have ejaculated during sex since, I don’t lose my erection for a long time, nor is my penis sensitive afterward and I most definitely get sensitive after ejaculating. Plus when I ejaculate my sexual desire is diminished for a while and that isn’t happening. My girlfriend is on the hormonal implant since we’ve been together for 2 years before we started became sexually active. Since we don’t use condoms we didn’t weren’t sure I was ejaculating at first. Otherwise the use of condoms would have discovered this immediately. I did some research and I’ve read that some guys can have multiple orgasms. It sounds like it takes a lot of patience and practice. Those guys seem to be able to orgasm without ejaculating. Maybe somehow that might be what’s happening to me without all the effort? That’s just a theory.

It’s funny that you mention the fleshlight. A few months after we started dating my girlfriend suggested that I get a toy to help take care of myself since she has her own. There was a promotion at the time so I ended up buying a few fleshlights. Since then I’ve used the fleshlight exclusively for masturbation. I have never had any issues achieving orgasm and ejaculating using a fleshlight. So I don’t think I have death grip syndrome. During oral sex my girlfriend isn’t putting much pressure or suction and I am to climax normally.

I should point out I have tried abstaining from ejaculating for a week once recently before having sex and ejaculated pretty much right after penetration. So I wasn’t exactly able to really enjoy my first ejaculation by sex. Normally I last anywhere from 5-15 minutes when my girlfriend performs fellatio on me. I last around 30 minutes when using the fleshlight. It takes around 10-15 minutes of sex when I feel Iike I’ve reached orgasm but don’t ejaculate. So it was probably the fastest I’ve ejaculated since my first year of masturbating when I was 13 or 14.

Do you think I should try abstaining from all sexual stimulation aside from vaginal for a while? 

I posted this somewhere else as well. I haven’t really gotten any good ideas on how to ejaculate from sex though. One women suggested that this might just be the way I am. She said she had partners who would ejaculate immediately from penetrative sex but last forever orally and vice versa. However The whole orgasm without ejaculation thing made it sound odd to her. The other idea that was suggested is, I might have emotionally scared sexually as a child somehow and suppressed the memory. Then somehow from that experience my body is unwilling to ejaculate in a vagina.

I realize at this point my issue has little to do with masturbation. So if you are willing to take more time helping me out feel free to email me back instead of putting it in your blog. If would like to post this in your blog, feel free to do so.

Thank you and have a great day

I don’t really know what to tell you, here!  It sounds like you have already explored most of the avenues I would have suggested to you, so this might be a question for a true professional (i.e. doctor / urologist or someone with medical training).  My only other idea is that you might be trying to have too many orgasms in a single day… do you masturbate on the same day as you try to have sex with your girlfriend?  If so, that might be causing some of your problems.  It sounds like you should just refrain from all other sexual activities and just have intercourse with your girlfriend (provided she’s interested in doing that with you) to see how that goes.  I’d be interested in hearing if that helps at all!

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